Want to Build a Better World? Grieve.

At first glance, it might seem a little strange for a yoga teacher to be advocating grief. Aren’t we supposed to be a little more, y’know … peppy?

That’s arguably the case. Personally, however, I find that while my asana practice certainly does enliven me, it also brings me ever more intimacy with an increasingly broad and vivid range of emotional experience. The term ‘yoga’, after all, is generally understood to refer to the yoking, or union, of mind and body. For that union to be meaningful, it seems to me that it must by necessity encompass the darker spheres of existence as well as the lighter ones.

Which means, at times, grief. Deep, wrenching grief. Grief over lost loves and missed chances. Grief at the state of the planet I call home. Grief at the injustices of neo-colonialism and the massacres and invasions carried out in the name of humanitarian intervention or national security. Grief over dead children, dying species, and decaying languages. Grief at the uncertainty and confusion that comes as part and parcel of living in a rapidly-changing world. And, sometimes, grief simply because life hurts people, and no-one gets out of it alive.

Angel of Grief, Protestant Cemetery, Rome [photo credit: elycefeliz]

Angel of Grief, Protestant Cemetery, Rome [photo credit: elycefeliz]

And that’s OK. In the face of competing impulses to shut down and to blame others for the complexities and challenges of living, I find that grief exerts a humanising influence, softening the heart and breeding the compassion necessary to enact real change.

If we refuse to grieve, we’re reduced either to defending the status quo or becoming embattled in the attempt to topple it. Neither can succeed. Change is upon us. Personal change. Political change. Ecological change. As Arundhati Roy puts it: “Another world is not only possible, she is on her way. On a quiet day, I can hear her breathing.”

If we wish to give birth to her peacefully, however, we must comprehend the full enormity of that statement. To open to a new world requires that we accept the death of an old one, whatever that means for us personally. It could involve saying goodbye to a beloved grandparent or pet. It may necessitate a stark reassessment of our country’s role in world affairs. It might mean simply accepting that some cherished plans for the future will never come to pass.

Whatever world we’re losing, feeling it die will be like letting go of a love affair whose time has come: necessary, yet achingly painful. If we wish to bid the past farewell with grace and dignity, we must allow a sense of grief and loss to permeate our souls, and deep wellsprings of sorrow to be fed by our tears. Then we must arise with new eyes and play our parts in the unfolding of a new day.

[photo credit: CGP Grey]

[photo credit: CGP Grey]

6 thoughts on “Want to Build a Better World? Grieve.

  1. Honest take on the reality we are facing. Yoga literature says that ‘everything is sorry for the wise’. You have extended that thought and talked about an emotion we can act upon.

    Thank you for sharing your insight. It is spot on.

    ” Compassion is the religion of heart” – Jaya Sati Bhagwati.

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